We either hear among ourselves, or our actions often imply that “there is not enough time during the day”. Some of us have learned that when we start to feel this way, we’ve got to manage our expectations. Why managing our expectations? Because we have a couple interesting tendencies. One of them is that we tend to underestimate the amount of time it takes to complete a task. This is very natural, simply because there are various factors and unexpected changes that go into the process. The other one is the tendency to ask more from ourselves.
There is a subtle belief in us that says “If I accomplish more, I will be better”, often that translates into I will feel safer, I will be worthier, I will be more accepted, I will be more appreciated, I will have more value, I will feel better about myself, etc. As creative beings, it is our nature to create unceasingly, out of passion, our of freedom, out of abundance. However, when we depend our happiness and fulfillment on the things we create, what happens? We get gnawed by the sense of “never enough-ness”, we become restless, strained, unsatisfied.
You may ask, then how do we enjoy generating more ideas, products, services, and qualities without being driven by a lack of satisfaction? There are some simple ways that have benefited many. And I invite you test them for yourselves:
What if you start to breathe a little slower and fuller each day? The need to do more or to go faster is typically associated with shallow breathing. When we slow down the breath and breath fuller more often throughout the day, it gradually brings a deeper sense of safety and grounded-ness. We are more centered, more relaxed, more clear headed, and more content. Many teachings and practices have proven that conscious breathing is the living evidence of well-being. Conscious breathing usually refers to breathing slower, fuller, and appreciating the power of the breath. Breathing could be our life long practice and discovery. No matter what happens, you can never go wrong by going to your breath.
The need to demand more of us also has to do with our lack of appreciation of ourselves. Out of conditioning from the past, we tend to find fault with ourselves and doubt ourselves instead of giving ourselves credits, praising ourselves, loving ourselves and supporting ourselves. Who wouldn’t want recognition and appreciation? They make us feel good, and it is because they are aligned with the truth of who we are. It is not hard to notice many of us are starved from self appreciation and self support. What if from now on, instead of being your own critic, you cultivate the habit of becoming your best ally? What if even the whole world is against you, you will stand by your side offering consolation, encouragement and kindness? A simple way to start this is to look for what you did right each day. Give yourself a few minutes each day, either jotting down or reflect what you did right today, or what you appreciate about you. Over time, your subconscious mind will be more and more familiar with what is right about you, and resonates less and less with what’s wrong about you. Imagine you begin to feel better and better about yourself, how would that transform your experience day by day?
When we learn to rest in the breath, and to acknowledge ourselves more and more, we will realize more and more that there is enough time during the day to do what we are supposed to do. These simple practices connects us with the sense of grace and ease, which enables us to enjoy more balance and satisfaction. Time is a gift, and it is sufficient. And so are we.