Celebrate the Fullness of Your Well Being
I am Passionate about Life, the life we all share, the life we all are, and the life that is woven in relationships.
I grew up in China and received my postgraduate education in the States. Like most of us, my life journey unfolded through many phases. At this point, the best way for me to capture it is that I have crossed over a distinct arc. It felt like for forty years I lived in one world, then there was about ten years of immense transformation, and now I live in another world.
Before the arc, I was seeking love, approval, safety and worthiness from outside of me. Even though I did experience much familial attention, care, friendship, accomplishments and happy moments, they were fleeting and unreliable. Instead, mentally and emotionally I was inundated with fear, insecurity, abandonment, judgement, criticism, doubt, isolation, confusion, sadness, depression and loneliness. I was also a victim of abuse.
I did not know how to handle my feelings, and I was severely addicted to food and the need for more (of any pleasure inducing activities). I had no sense of relaxation, moderation or balance. I had no voice, and I was afraid of speaking. I confused codependency with service. I dreaded changes I didn’t like. I felt Life didn’t care. No matter what, I wasn’t good enough. I was insignificant, at fault. Outwardly I was kind and pleasant, and inwardly I was screaming out of pain.
At the arc, I was blessed to receive support, teachings, communities and practices, which enabled me to care for my physical well-being, emotional freedom, and mental alignment with the truth that sets me free, one day at a time. In many ways I was growing as a baby, as a newborn. For this phase, I am grateful to the 12 step program that helped me to stop using food to hurt me. I am grateful to the teachings of Byron Katie and Eckhart Tolle. I am grateful to the enlightenment of “The Way of Mastery” and its community. I am grateful to my professional coaching training program iPEC and its communities. I am supremely grateful to the heart-centered teaching and examples of Matt Kahn. I am grateful to Life for my total healing from food addiction, from other addictive behaviors, and from codependency. I am grateful to every one that came into my life, and to every circumstance the Universe orchestrated as catalysts for my growth.
Since transitioning from the arc to where I am now, I continue to explore and mature. I feel privileged to be me. I am thankful to Life’s incredible love, blessing and guidance. I am dedicated to self-care. Not only have I recovered a voice that was buried for decades, but I am also expressing it authentically, passionately and creatively for the benefit of many. I am blessed with deep peace and unconditional happiness. Each day, I joyfully learn to make the best use of time. Each day, I nurture my emotional freedom. Each day, I make more courageous and loving choices. Each day, I am more committed to listen to me and to others. Each day, I bring my highest consciousness to all my relational encounters. Each day, I celebrate the glorious completion of the past, the perfection of the moment, and I rejoice in the magnificent coming of the future.
As I deepened my self love, it cracked open the code to all relationships. I have healed my relational wounds with my parents, and I am enjoying their company in harmony and love. I continue to nurture and mature in my romantic relationship, which also fuels my own growth and expansion. I have replaced worry and concern over my loved ones with confidence in the purposefulness of where they are. I passionately bless and celebrate their lives and I fearlessly live my own. My personal and professional experiences have demonstrated over and over that whatever relational challenges we are in, we have the power to liberate ourselves and to be the good news bearer for others.
Having been exposed to both Eastern and Western culture, I embrace people of all ethnic backgrounds. My coaching and teaching are rooted in love. They are simple and experiential. I lead by example.
Personally, I refresh and entertain myself through meditation, walking/hiking, dancing, cooking, trying new things and blessing the world.